Having those hard discussions

Talking with people about your aBC can be difficult, as it is an emotional topic; however, a little bit of planning can help make it easier, and take some of the stress out of it. Make a list of the people you would like to talk to, and how you will talk to them (in person, by phone etc.). Make sure you are sitting down comfortably, explain why, and be ready to tell people how they can help if they offer to.

If you are talking to children, it is important to give very simple explanations of what is happening, repeating it to them often.¹ You may want to use a doll to show where the cancer is in your body.¹ Explain that they cannot “catch” cancer from you¹ and it is a good idea to keep the conversation short, giving them a lot of opportunities to ask any questions. Check the child understands what you have told them, and reassure them that you can still have a lot of fun together.

Finding support when you need it  

Do not be afraid to ask for help, and be sure to ask the people who you think will be the best equipped to help the most. Who is a good listener? Who has a car that they can use in the day to help with chores? Asking for help shows real strength, and other people usually respond well when they are asked to help. In fact, people often want to be able to be useful, and may be able to help with chores during the day.